Words that make you fall..

Some people can just string together words that otherwise seem so ordinary, but when strung together, it is a thing of beauty. I recently discovered Pablo Neruda, and with each  of his word I read, I find myself falling.

So here is one that I read now, and HAD to share.

I Do Not Love You Except Because I Love You – Poem by Pablo Neruda

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way

than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

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Until next time, read more..

xo

Ghosting: the scary new trend

Have you ever met someone and just clicked, suddenly and effortlessly you and this person have so much in common, you like the same things, you have similar philosophies about life, and everything seems wonderful, till one day this person disappears, no proper goodbye, no explanation, nothing… *Poof* they are gone, like a bad magic trick.

At first you think, they they must be busy, or there has to be a perfectly plausible explanation for the sudden disappearance. Then days go by, turning into weeks and you are left repeatedly checking your phone, looking for the “last seen“, checking to see if your friend is “Online“, and still finding that not even one of the times your phone beeps, it is your friend texting/calling to say hello again. After perhaps weeks, you realize that its time to let go of someone who has already left.

Given the day and age we live in, I think I can safely assume that all of us have faced this situation. And for those lucky few who don’t know what I’m talking about, this is called Ghosting. It is when a person finds it easier to disappear from another’s world than just say goodbye. Because often times leaving quietly is easier than messy farewells.. Its a horrible thing, but it happens way too frequently.

Unfortunately I have been on both sides of this, and the only time I have chosen to leave without a goodbye is when I have felt utterly disrespected, so much so that even a reaction to such a treatment was felt to be beneath my dignity.

Let me give you an example – In the recent past, there was a guy I liked (who liked me too, or at least that is what I deduced from his behavior). We have a ton of mutual friends, he was fun and confident, he constantly flirted with me, and then one day this guy turned around and said that he would go out with (date) me provided we kept it a secret. Wow! A secret boyfriend, lucky me!  *NOT*

Did he expect me to be thrilled to bits by this proposition? Because that is just the fairy tale all of us grew up wanting right?

Did I want to be someone’s dirty little secret? No

Did I think I deserved better than that from a guy? Hell yes.

Did I want to whine and pout and put this guy on the spot, just so he’d agree to be in a non-secret relationship, which would most likely have a shelf life of a few weeks tops? Definitely NOT.

So what did I do – I politely ended the conversation and decided to stop giving my time and energy to people who treated me only as an option or as a dirty little secret they are too embarrassed by.

Now you might be thinking, this was easy for her, well… it really wasn’t. Walking away is never easy. But there are ALWAYS two sides to anything. To cut someone off, without a proper goodbye is hard, it hurts and its no fun at all. But, for the sake of your own self esteem, it has to be done.

Which brings me to today, when I am on the receiving end of this treatment (Is this Karma? Maybe). Perhaps I said or did something to offend this guy so much that he thought best to leave without a goodbye. Leaving me feeling utterly confused, inadequate and rejected.

Both times however (funnily enough), the only person left with a profound sense of rejection was Me.

Well, we are and can only be responsible for our own actions. Its best to be mindful about what we do, what we are putting into the world, rather than cultivate expectations and entitlement. While I retreat to my safe place to lick my wounds and soothe my bruised pride, here is a parting note – No matter what, whether you have cut someone off or you have been cut off, know that sometimes people enter your life only as a lesson, their role is over once they have taught you what you desperately needed to learn, nothing more.These are not your Knights in shiny armors, valiant enough to rescue you from your demons. After all, they too are too busy fighting their own demons and trying desperately to save themselves. We are all doing the best we can, aren’t we.

So remember – Not everyone you meet deserves an introduction to your soul.. But To ghost or not to ghost, that is the real question for this power comes with great responsibility. Use it at your own discretion.

Until next time, be good and be safe.

xo

999 – Time for Change

Today is 09-09-2016 (which adds up to 9), so today’s date is 999 which some believe signify Endings. So if you, like me, have been feeling like you’ve been stuck, in a slump, or just used to the hopelessness of a monotonous routine, this day should give you a reason to be hopeful.

It is widely believed that when you often see sequences of numbers like 111, 222, etc., it is the Universe sending you a little message. I fondly refer to it as my own little moments of synchronicity, the moments of perfect alignment with the Universe..

I know, I know… Some of you might roll your eyes and dismiss all this as new age-y and hokey, and that is okay. This is just something that a lot of us find comfort in, and it is something that I hope gives hope to those who are at a dead-end. And that is okay too.🙂

You might have been told to make a wish when the clock strikes 11:11, that is because 1111 signifies new beginnings, or awakening. Number 1111 is made up of the powerful influences of the number 1, amplified and magnified by four.  Number 1 resonates with the new beginnings and starting afresh, creation and creativity, self-reliance and tenacity, attainment, happiness, innovation, self-development and oneness with life.

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Image Source – Google Images

Similarly, each of these number sequences have a different meaning and indicate something significant in your life that the Universe is nudging you towards.

999 signifies Closure, a time to move on. It may seem difficult right now to think that something is ending, because we are so conditioned to find sorrow in endings.But think of it this way, the thing that is ending is perhaps a bad phase, a particularly difficult aspect of life, an end of a toxic relationship, that has left your heart aching, it is time for all that to finally come to a conclusion. And like a beautiful sunset, it gives you the grace to bid adieu.  It is the Universe telling you that you’ve had enough of something.

For every ending also means that you are on the cusp of a new beginning. And beginnings like the sunrise brings with it a feeling of renewed hope. So smile, it is time for a wonderful new phase to begin, have a little faith and know that all this is somehow part of a plan, and someday we will be able to see the dots connect, and oh boy, will it be a stunner!

I hope today is a wonderful day for you, say goodbye to your former self, your hardships, your anguish, its time to finally close that chapter.. Sleep well tonight, and get set to make tomorrow a brand new start and welcome new experiences to your life.

For what is to come, I wish you luck.

Until next time..

xo

Internet Find- New Favorite Poem

One of the best thing about the Internet is that there is a ton of talented writers and I just found this poem in my drafts, unfortunately I can’t remember where I found this, but this poem is too beautiful not to share. This poem is by Merrit Malloy. Hope you love it as much as I do.

“There are people who cannot say good-bye
They are born this way/this is how they die
They are the keepers of promises/what moves them does not wear out
Their loyalty will tear apart your clocks

These are the people who can hear the music in songs
They are the Vow carriers
The grandmothers who always leave the porchlight on
No one is lost to the one who sees

These are the women widowed by men they never married
These are the girls who wait even when you don’t come
These are the mothers of orphans/They can turn a fake into an original
They will hear the prayer in your self-contempt

As distance is measured/people do not end
It is one of those stories that cannot be written down except across a lifetime of open doors
There is a holding on beyond the letting go
There is a reunion in everybody’s chest
This is how we come to make a family from strangers
This is how we light candles

These are people who will remember you when you meet them
These are the people you can always call at night
They are humans turned angels by your asking
With each separation they go to seed again.

These are the men who carried you on their shoulders
This is the one your are lonely for
the one who begins and ends your hunger
This is the man who said “Always”

There is something that does not wear out
It is the third part of any two people who join
It opens and closes

There are people who are alone who are not apart
This is why we listen to the madman when he speaks
People change but they do not stop
This is how we learn “Forever”

There are people you can count on/They are the keepers of promises
They are candles lit from each other
They can teach us eternity
We can get what we can give/This is the instruction
There are people who do not say goodbye
As distance is measured
You are one of them”

-Merrit Malloy

How many heartbreaks must this person have endured to be able to write something so beautiful, I wonder..

Until next time, happy September All..

xo

On secrets…

The truth about secrets is it starts off being exciting and innocuous, but it ends up weighing heavily on you, and over time it leaves an after taste that wasn’t even worth it to begin with. It also comes with an unspoken element of shame associated with it.

By design, secrets is meant to exclude others, and the big problem with it is how it becomes a burden, where one needs to constantly be aware of what they can and cannot say to certain people for the fear of revealing the contents of your secret.

It makes me wonder how this is different from lying.

Life has this quality of being unpredictable, it can change in a blink, and this is true even for the people in our lives, and the last thing anyone should have to do is edit and restrict what is being said, for the fear for being found out. If tomorrow you won’t know someone anymore, true closure is knowing that you knew them (for the good, bad and everything else), and not have doubts about every single thing they said or did.

Imagine if people had the courage to be exactly themselves, without having to keep secrets.. Yes, a lot of people around us won’t appreciate it, we may get a lot of eye-rolls, and a lot of derision, but are we seriously delusional enough to think that there aren’t people who already do that anyway, regardless of who we are? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we gave ourselves permission to be our truest selves, without the shame or fear or rejection?

I will not keep or be anyone’s secret.

Until next time, lets not have any more secrets..

xo

CatchLight – God’s own Country

Still hungover from my recent trip to Kerala which is a south Indian state more popularly known as God’s own country. It truly is a beautiful place, the weather is lovely, the food is yummy..

Here are some of my favorite clicks from my trip:

I will definitely be going back.

Until next time..

xo

QOTD: On dignity

Something has been niggling on the back of my mind ever since my trip, and that is how sometimes people are awful for no reason, just like sometimes people are kind for no reason at all, both of these have a way of taking your breath away…

I’m a big believer of the Universe sending signals and moments of synchronicity when you feel like you’re perfectly in-sync with the cosmos. And finding this Quote makes me feel like this is the Universe’s way of soothing my frayed nerves. Hope you like it as much as I do.

One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but cannot be taken away unless it is surrendered.

 Michael J. Fox, Words of Wisdom (Volume 54)

Until next time..

xo