When You Think Distance Will Make Him Miss You

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I guess I was being selfish when I’d asked for some. Like I thought distance could be some form of weapon I could defend myself with against you, against all the hurt you could cause.

I needed to feel like my emotions weren’t hitched onto something that could collapse in a moment; I needed to feel like I could be pressed up against your side yet still be an independent; and I needed for you to miss me while I was gone.

I needed for distance to whisper in your ear when I wasn’t at the dinner table, and our friends asked where I’d been. I needed for distance to remind you to check your phone when my ‘good morning’ texts (with a smiley) left a vacant space on your screen. I needed for distance to nuzzle against your bare, cold skin when you climbed into bed to watch…

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This Is Why I’m Guarded

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There’s a reason why my walls are built so high, and there’s a reason it will take you longer than expected to bring them down. There’s a reason why I’m guarded.

I’m guarded because I’ve been hurt before. We all have. My weakness is that I carry the pain with me as a constant reminder that it could happen again. And while this is such a cautious way to walk through life, while instead I could be wildly sprinting, the wild sprint has made me fall and trip before, and the scrapes and burns were painful. So painful that it takes a while to try and run that fast again. So I walk, and I walk carefully noticing my surroundings because I worry if I were to ever fall that hard again, I might not be able to get back up.

I’m guarded because I’m scared…

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10 Life Lessons I Learned From Elle Woods

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1. Life doesn’t always go according to plan.

Who knows this better than Elle Woods? Her “ring by spring” plan was completely ruined by her douche of a boyfriend who wanted a Jackie, not a Marilyn. First of all, ew; second, Elle turned out kicking a lot more ass than Warner so maybe plans aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.

2. Hard work doesn’t go unnoticed.

Elle worked hard. Like, really hard. There are multiple studying montages set to kick-ass girl power music that prove it. She decided to become a lawyer and got into Harvard a few months later. She had a 4.0. She had a 179 on her LSATs. Even those old admissions guys watching her video were impressed.

3. Being nice to people is pretty cool.

There are too many examples in this movie to count, but a few of my favorites are as…

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Slow Down, Life Is Not About Being Busy

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“How are you?” you ask an acquaintance you haven’t seen in some time. “So busy,” they respond, breathlessly. They go on to recount a hectic travel schedule, momentous work projects, a new exercise regime. These days, busyness is worn like a badge of honor. The less time you have for yourself to do nothing, the more in-demand you are, the more important you make yourself seem to others. Everyone wants a piece of you. Between breakfast meetings, lunch meetings, afternoon appointments, dinner dates, your calendar is just so full. You want to get together? Email my assistant for an appointment; I think I have an opening sometime around the next lunar eclipse.

This is no way to live life. When we over-schedule ourselves, plan for things days, weeks, and months in advance, we are eliminating the chance for spontaneity. We become automated versions of ourselves, shuffling mindlessly from one destination…

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Life Lessons I’ve learnt from The Godfather



Found this from my 5th day of starting this blog!! One of my all time favorites!



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As I write this, I can actually hear the haunting music that plays at the opening scene of this movie, but as an avid reader and lover of written words, of course, I love the book more. The Godfather by Mario Puzo is one of those rare books that has affected millions, if not billions of people and I can proudly proclaim that I am definitely one of them.. I read this book for the first time when I was 13 years old and have probably re read it hundreds of times since. Sometimes when I’m down, I just open the book to a random page and start reading it. It has so many quotes, so many characters and oh so many things to fall in love with. But beyond all that it has lessons for life.

Lesson #1. I’m gonna make him an offer he can’t refuse

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Swimming class: The unexpected lessons

Last month I finally enrolled myself for swimming lessons at the neighborhood club. Its been something that I hadn’t had a chance to learn as a child. This year, after almost two or three years of missing deadlines, I finally knew that before my next birthday, I’ll know how to swim.

As someone who loves to workout, I thought that learning the form would be a piece of cake for me, but how wrong was i!!!!

The day finally arrived when the classes started, they made us stretch and shower before getting into the pool. In the pool we went step by step as well.. First we practiced kicking, then kicking when we were on our stomach and then we were in the water, and boy was it fun!!!

I’m not the tallest person in the world, so the 5 feet deep pool was barely manageable for me, I had to stand on my tippy toes to keep my head above the water… Before you decide to crack the code of how tall I am, I’m 5’2″.


So every day I felt like there were new challenges and new lessons learnt and progress made. Although I was one of the few who were the slowest to learn, by the last day, I finally got a hang of it, and I know that with a little practice, I can start doing laps in no time.

A few things that surprised me that I learnt at the swim lessons that had nothing to do with swimming are:

1. The blank noise when you’re under water is the most peaceful time and it literally makes you forget the world outside. If you learn to love it, and become one with the water, you’ll learn sooner.

This was a lesson I learn at the fag end of the course though, most of the initial days, I used to get very nervous and flail around and tense up.

which brings me to my next lesson…

2. You need to be able to completely relax your body to be able to swim. Unlike other forms of exercises, you don’t need to flex or squeeze your muscles. Now this was a revelation to me, as every single workout I’ve done, especially Pilates (which I currently practice) needs me to flex and not let my muscles loose,

This made me realize that the rules on the land and the rules in water are quite different. Over the course of the camp, I finally learnt to let go and relax and enjoy the water.

3. Friends across the demographic. This was a fun and interesting thing that happened at the camp, I made new friends, women of different ages and backgrounds who were there to learn to swim, and that was fun!

It made me realize that I need to keep my group really diverse.. And swimming helped me do that.

4. I liked having something to do besides going to work. One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to learn new things, get your body moving. It’s scary at first, but you’ll love yourself for not giving up.

5. This camp made me realize just how stubborn I can be. Like I said, i was one of the last few women in our group to let go of my fear and learn to swim.

There were moments when I wanted to just give in and give up, and the very next moment my stubbornness would kick in and wouldn’t let me give up. I was determined to learn if it was the last thing I ever did.

Being as competitive as I am, the biggest challenge for me was not let others progress (which was way ahead of me), get to me. Yes I am very very competitive, about pretty much EVERYTHING. This forced me to forget others, not give up on myself and compete with only me..

And this has been my attitude for everything in life, when i have wanted something, giving up is not even an option.

6. When you focus on what you want, everything else fades into the background, the criticism, the opinions of others, its becomes inaudible when you understand that the blank noise of being under water is not scary but its the thing which helps you get perspective. And the only thing you really want will come into focus.

7. Its very easy to rely on (proverbial) crutches, I used to rely mostly on the handle bars, I used to stick to the corners and not really give up. Outside the pool as well, I have so many different crutches that I refuse to let go of, because I don’t think I can do without them. That hit me hard and made me reevaluate my life outside the pool.

Lessons aside, I can finally SWIM!!! Who would’ve thought!!

And at this moment, I’ll choose to just be proud of me and enjoy this moment.

See you in the water sometime…

Until then,