You are so enough!
Have you ever felt inadequate, like no matter how hard you’ve tried or how much good you’ve put into the world, it has somehow fallen short, like you missed the mark by just a bit. Have you ever felt depleted and exhausted because no matter what the efforts are, the results never seem to add up.
Well, welcome to the real world. Pretty much every human being you have encountered in life has felt this way at some point. Life can be harsh & brutal, and when you least expect (or deserve) it.
Lets take the thing almost everyone has issues with – body and body image issues – growing up the beauty standards were that one had to be reed thin and almost androgynous to be considered attractive, and now suddenly the standard is curves curves curves. Or take Eyebrows, growing up thin eyebrows with crazy high arches were in vogue (leaving you with a perpetual look of surprise) and now its the thick bushy “instagram” eyebrows that are in. Same with fashion trends, same with beauty, same with values, same with everything. I can think of many many examples like these, but that’s not the point of this post. Just when one reaches the “Goal” of what is considered attractive/good/acceptable, the goal posts are moved.
It reminds me of the story of the donkey and the carrot, or the hamster and the wheel. Basically pointless (on an individual level) and profits for Businesses.
My first question is when did we give away the power to someone else to set these “goals” for us. How about we make the “goal” accepting what we see in the mirror, and setting realistic (achievable) goals for self-improvement. Taking back the power.
You see, when you live in a society that constantly tells you that you’re not enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you most desire or aspire. The biggest form of rebellion comes from realizing you are SO enough!
Its not ALL bad though or a constant battle, Life is also filled with unexpected beauty and kindness (if you still can’t find it, find the nearest mirror), and people who want the best for you, you just have to find your tribe is all. But before you find your tribe, you have to figure out, accept, and celebrate you.
It took me 20 something years to stop needing validation from other people and realize that I am, in fact, enough (good enough, kind enough, pretty enough, lovely enough, <Enter adjective> enough). When I liked me (and by like I mean, accept myself fully, as I am), it didn’t matter anymore if anyone else did (or not).
Take it from me, You are SO enough, and don’t let the world tell you otherwise.
I can talk about this forever, but for now have a Happy December!