Thoughtful

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Thoughtful

Sometimes we become friends with the most unlikely people. One of my most cherished friendships in the recent past is with a colleague of mine who is more than twice my age, but age has nothing to do with anything (a revelation!). We often discuss spirituality and the ways of the world, and everything in between. Today he brought basil-turmeric tea for me because he knew I’d been sick with a sore throat this past week.

Its these (seemingly) little acts of kindness that stay with me forever. I may forget words of flattery, or even empty appreciation from people who didn’t mean them. But these little moments where someone does something simply because they wish you well is fleeting and hard to come by, that they become precious memories that I reach out to for comfort long after the moment has passed. And for these thoughtful people, I’m eternally grateful!

xo
M

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For the Love of Love !!

One of the most tragic thing ever is when a person becomes so busy making a living that he forgets to make a life… I’m beginning to notice this very saddening trend way too often among my friends, I guess that’s just the norm in any group of 20-somethings, Isn’t it so true that each of us is more competitive and ambitious than the next. We all want better lives, better jobs, bigger promotions, bigger pay, bigger cars, better toys, bigger houses, to live in big cities and race against the clock, live faster, and why not !!!!.. For the most part, we are all so caught up in this race that we forget that there’s something more important we are missing out on and how..

Having never been a “workaholic” (not even remotely so), I’ve always been clear that a job is just that… A job… Its not (and will never be) my whole life. Its part of life, a pretty big part, perhaps, but never my whole life. Work is like Seasoning, it makes the food taste yummy, but try eating just the seasoning…. Can’t do it, can you ?? Work is great and very required for a “yummier” life (so to speak), I feel a bigger sense of Loyalty to people, and isn’t that how it should be. But I’m increasingly finding myself feeling caught up by it.. 

Neither am I one of those “pseudo philosophical” people who attribute all the evils in the world to Money. Someone once told me (and quite accurately so) that the only people who claim that money doesn’t buy happiness are the ones who don’t have any.. Don’t let anyone kid you, Money is very important, it makes life comfortable, it gives you choices that you won’t have if you don’t have money. I’m possibly (definitely) one of the most materialistic people there is.. But money in itself is never enough

In our final moments, we don’t wonder about our bank accounts or how our bosses perceive us, or whether the people in our lives are impressed by our swanky new toys… Having had two very close brushes with death in the recent past, near accidents that would’ve been fatal which were missed by a fraction of a second and by what I believe to be the big guy in the sky looking out for me, I can promise you, that those things (I am so busy chasing after) weren’t even on my mind.. I didn’t worry about or fear death either. Death, after all is an inevitability that makes life more meaningful (It isn’t intended to scare the living day-lights out of us…. It just is.. Reality).. THE only thought that consumed my mind was, did I love enough… Do the people I love know that I love them. Because, in the end, the only thing that matters is love.

It’s amusing (now) to remember that an old friend of mine was always very put off by how morbid I can be sometimes. And I don’t hold grudges about that either.. After all, I’m too busy being in love with the people I love to waste any time holding grudges or being angry about things I can’t change..

Sometimes I blame Technology for making life too convenient, we seem to think its okay not to make an effort anymore. I’m connected to my closest friends on every social media platform there is, except in reality (for the most part, at least…. I tend to be slightly dramatic sometimes 😉 okay okay !!! Very dramatic, always…)..

I remember the time when I knew all my friends telephone numbers without even having to look at a phone-book and I’d pick up the phone, simply because it rang, not knowing who it could be, screening calls was unheard of. Back then, socializing meant meeting over a cup of coffee (Hahaha, I’m not as OLD as I sound), Now, my friends and I see each other on the virtual playground, notifications are the way to know that the conversation is still on, Yes, its convenient, yes, it saves a LOT of time and efforts, Yes, it is the easy way out.. And why else wouldn’t it be the most preferred thing in the world, since we are all always so busy anyway…

I was chatting with my best friend this morning, and we realized that its been rather long since we met, every time we make plans, work or something else comes in the way… Another friend of mine who I haven’t met in a while because he’s too busy building his business. Even my own brother, who lives in a five minute driving distance from me, I don’t meet as often as I would’ve liked.. And many many more with their own priorities….

To be honest, I’m  most grateful for people like these, because I know that no time or distance can diminish my love for them, I can’t imagine being compulsive and keeping score when it comes to meeting people, I get uncomfortable when I feel like I am being compelled to meet or talk to someone… Which is why I seldom text my friends first, I can’t bare the thought that anyone would feel compelled to reply JUST because (Do unto others…). You know I’m around when you need me.. (Now you know why I HATE texting first)…

To my busy-bee friends, all I have to say is, I’m thrilled for you, for your successes, for the price you pay for all your accomplishments, your work ethic is admirable, and no one deserves it more than you.. And if there’s ONLY one thing I wish for you to know is that I miss you, and Love you even more…

For the love of love, its time for me to realize that while I’m racing and running and chasing after things, it is TIME that’s racing ahead of us all… And it’s got a HUGE head-start too.. Before the inevitable, do something you love, be happy, watch a movie, sing your favorite song, kiss your kids (if you’re lucky enough to have them), be obnoxious with your best friends, crack silly jokes, even if you’re the only one who finds it funny (story of my life: feeling so breathless because of all the laughing that no one else even understands the joke *shrugging my shoulders*), cry a little, just slow down enough to allow yourself to feel. To love. To live… Since my weekend has JUST begun, I intend to do just that… Join me, won’t you ?

Until next time, Happy Weekend.. 🙂

xo

Until we meet again

This song sounds like a goodbye, but when you really listen, you’ll hear differently.

every place I go. I think of you.

every song I sing, I sing for you.

Its impossible to leave behind the ones you carry in your heart. You take them everywhere you go.To the ones we have lost, to the ones who got on that jet plane and left us. To the ones who left without a goodbye, to the ones who we couldn’t have enough time with (time’s never enough, is it ?). I know we will meet again soon..

xo

Of Luck, Superstitions and Lessons for Life…

20140129-093434.jpgBeing in the right place at the right time, is it merely coincidence or is there something bigger at play ? 

Meeting the people we meet, is it all chance or is there some bigger master plan that only gets revealed when we look back and attempt to connect the dots.

Not getting what we wish and hope for, is it the universe helping us dodge a bigger bullet ?

I don’t know for sure but some of these questions have been on my mind for the past few days (more so than ever), and certain circumstances and the behavior of certain friends have got me questioning pretty much all that goes on around us.

I’ve been getting a rather awful vibe from this girl that I considered a good friend and initially I tried to brush it off as me having a bad day, or me over-thinking it and being overtly sensitive, but as the months have passed, that nagging feeling on the back of my mind has been getting stronger and my alarm bells have been getting louder and I’ve realized that there’s definitely something wrong with this relationship. I hate it when this happens (who doesn’t ?), the disintegration of any relationship is heartbreaking, to say the least, But clinging on to something that has gone bad is self-destructive, turning everything toxic from within.

Being someone who considers myself to be pretty superstitious, I feel like I have been struck by the evil-eye, In India we call it Dhristhi and this has made me feel like I have hit a few roadblocks and have been existing in this state of limbo and it has got to STOP, Like NOW !!!! I wondered how best I could do this and my Go-To solution for most problems (after sleeping it off) is cleaning, it can be so cathartic, it always helps to organize everything around me and take stock of what needs to be done, or maybe its just a futile attempt at gaining some control, perhaps. What better time than NOW to clear the clutter and detox, my body, mind, soul, surroundings and pretty much MY universe ! And when I started cleaning my room, I found this evil-eye protecting charm (the one in the photograph) that was given to me by an old friend and I didn’t need a bigger sign than that to know for sure that I am on the right track. This obviously means that I have to cut some ties, the ones who have wronged me, its not because I suddenly Hate you and for the record, I Hate no one, hating takes too much energy and I’d rather use mine for love..Hate is not only counter-productive, its destructive, Its merely because I love myself more.

To the ones I am letting go, in a weird way, I will always love you because if not for you, I wouldn’t have had the chance to learn certain lessons. I’m not a big fan of elaborate goodbyes so I won’t even try to say it, I will however say this, the world is too small, perhaps, we’ll meet again and if so, I’ll hope that the second comings will be more beautiful. Until then… Take Care…

Ah I said I won’t try and say goodbye, since it never fails to make me cry !! But looks like that is exactly what I have done.. In the midst of tears another question comes to mind, Is every action deliberate or are we merely yet another cog in the machine that is this universe ?

I guess, the optimist in me (which is pretty much ALL of me), likes to believe that we are all part of something bigger than ourselves, something more mysterious, perhaps something so powerful that we aren’t meant to fully understand it.

Something that is bigger than the sky, more powerful than the sun, something that is ultimately good and always looking out for us. And I personally like to call this something, the big guy in the sky.

So, to you, my big guy in the sky, I say this, Thank you for always watching my back !! My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me. .

Gratitude and Love

xo