Un-social media

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I’m a fairly late bloomer when it comes to social media, I reluctantly joined the Facebook bandwagon in 2012, only to keep it deactivated most of the time, and be super active the rest of the time (and feel guilty about wasting so much time).  Of course, I’m also on Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and LinkedIn.  When I think about it, it is a huge waste of time, but for an introvert like me, it is the most ideal way to socialize with people, limited to our hand-held devices.

One doesn’t have to be a subject-matter expert to notice some of the awful side effects of social media. It has become an accepted norm to be glued to your phones irrespective of the occasion, people use their phones during business meetings, weddings, even funerals, while driving, while on dates, even in the toilet (eewww!).

when you are constantly using your phone in the presence of other people, you are essentially telling them that there is someone on the other end of the screen is way more important than you, who is present.  This has happened to me so many times I’ve lost count.

Its obviously not all bad.  Social media is pretty much revolutionizing the way businesses are conducted, it has opened up avenues and new business opportunities, it makes life easier, information (about practically anything) can be shared with people across the globe.  But unfortunately it comes at a price..

Is social media making us more anti-social??  Maybe I’ll figure it out someday.

Peace & Love




Often I find that there are various (often opposing) elements co-existing in the same realm without conflict, be it the natural elements, be it our emotions, be it our energy, be it the people around us (it could be anything, really) and then suddenly there’s a trigger which changes the whole equation. In Chemistry class, I remembered learning about catalysts, which are chemical substances that increase the rate of a chemical reaction without itself undergoing any permanent chemical change.

In life also, there are so many triggers, so many instances that provoke change and alter the course of our lives forever.

The biggest such catalyst in my lifetime has been the Internet. Practically anything can be done online – Research becomes faster and more accurate, finding old friends and people you have lost touch with is way easier, online shopping (thank heavens for the person who came up with Online shopping!), dating, work, writing (this post!), business transactions, you name it and the Internet has some part in it.

It has definitely made many aspects of life easier, but it has also made us less personable, less present, and generally averse if not intolerant of anything which isn’t an instant gratification.

Which brings me to what I have been thinking of these past few days, long gone are the days when people wrote hand written letters or sent out thank you cards to one another, and waited days before it reached its recipients, and wait days more for the replies. I can’t help but wonder, do the people of today have the resilience and patience for delayed gratification?

I mean, in a lot of aspects, we may never have the need to find out, but it still makes me wonder.

Sometimes life is about watching the paint dry, before we can go to the next stage. This downtime too is needed, even if it feels like we are stuck in a state of limbo. Perhaps it will all make sense in the (not so distant) future.

Until then, I’m still here – attempting to pour my thoughts into words.