As someone who is constantly surrounded by Professors and Teachers, I tend to be hyper-aware when lessons are being taught. But I find that the best and sometimes the most brutal teacher in life is Life itself. After all its lessons don’t come in text books designed with a beginning, middle, and end, or a specific purpose, or at a specific timing. Life has a way of throwing lessons at you when you least expect it. You either learn on the first try or get knocked down to your knees (sometimes many times) till you learn what you are meant to learn. Sometimes there isn’t even any indication to show you that what you think you’re learning is the lesson that’s meant for you at that time. The game of dodge ball comes to mind.
On the occasion of Teachers day, I can’t help but think of some of my favorite lessons, and by favorite I mean the ones that made the most impact. Life 101 if you will.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time
The great Maya Angelou said this, and how true it is. Notice how she doesn’t use the word “Tells”, because it isn’t about the words people use. People often tell you what they think you want to hear, which means there will always be little room to believe that it isn’t necessarily true or they perhaps don’t necessarily believe it, but they simply say it because they think its what you want to hear, and for whatever reason want to gain your trust. Notice more of what people do when they’re not using their words, or if things add up when its time to walk the talk.
Which brings me to the next one…
If something appears too good to be true, it probably is
I’m rarely genuinely surprised by people anymore. Which makes me a bit sad, really. Perhaps life has made me a bit too cynical (for my age?), but I suppose it is what happens when people show you time and time again that when they are trying too hard to make something appeal to you, there are almost always things behind the veil of pretense which will definitely NOT appeal to you. If not this, sometimes the timing is just off, or the twist of fate is such that things don’t play out the way you had hoped. Either way, this lesson is indelibly etched in my soul.
ALWAYS always always trust your instincts
If something doesn’t add up, don’t let your stubbornness make excuses by giving it the benefit of doubt. Whether it is a particular circumstance, person, activity, investment. Anything. I often describe Instincts as simply knowing. Your soul knows. How, why what, when, are questions which your conscious mind asks when in doubt. But your instincts or your higher self or whatever you call it, simply knows.
When you know you know. Trust your instincts. It protects you and often helps you dodge bullets that you are not ready (or capable) to handle.
I can recount numerous instances where I have disregarded my instincts and tried to force the proverbial square peg to a round hole, and 100% of the time those things haven’t worked out. Not only not worked out, it has blown up in my face. 100% track record is enough to make me never want to question it.
Life is Short, don’t waste it on things that don’t (shouldn’t) matter
Because just like that, it is already September of 2017. I still remember wanting 2016 to end, and it feels like yesterday. But time keeps passing us by irrespective of whether we are ready for it or not. Suddenly it feels like our best times are rapidly trying to race past us. Well, bottom line is, life is as precious as it is short. And its pretty short. 🙂
And finally my favorite one of all…
Your life is yours. Live it the way it feels right for you. Don’t worry about other people validating it or approving your choices. Live. No explanations or justifications needed. You owe yourself at least that much.
Happy Teachers, Life. You’ll ALWAYS be my favorite.
Peace & Love