Countdown

In exactly one month I will be celebrating a milestone birthday, the big Three-Oh, and unsurprisingly I am completely freaked out! I felt exactly this way when I was turning 20 (and now I think, awww how cute, that I was actually worried about turning 20!), when I realized I’ll never be a teen ever again, and THAT was a decade ago. Where does the time go?

Milestone birthdays always give me a bittersweet feeling, it makes me feel like time is passing me by so quickly, even though it happens one day at a time, and I always countdown big events, it still manages to catch me by surprise and I can’t help but wonder how I got here.

Anyway, after the surprise (shock) has subsided, I generally tend to feel a little sad that perhaps some of the most fun moments are behind me, but I hope to heaven that I’m wrong and whats coming is way better than what I’ve left behind. After all life is about moving forward, even if we do sometimes look back just to reminisce for a little while.

Nonetheless, my 20s have been (and still is for another month) a very memorable decade, so many firsts, so many memories made, so many epiphanies, its been wonderful so far, and as I sit here making plans for the coming month, I can’t help but think of some of my favorite moments of the last decade.

In my 20s, I –

  1. learnt how to drive;
  2. got my first tattoo;
  3. met my Best friend/sister in law school – I don’t know what I’d do without her;
  4. graduated from Law School;
  5. got my first job;
  6. had my BIG heartbreak, and survived it;
  7. re-connected with my other best friend, after almost 10 years (or more) of having lost touch – and boy am I blessed to have met him again;
  8. reconnected with many many old friends;
  9. drove in my first TSD car rally and won;
  10. battled with numerous insecurities and overcame most of them;
  11. did my first bungee jump;
  12. drove a tractor;
  13. started this blog – my own little corner of the internet, which gives me so much joy;
  14. tried my hand at teaching – a lifelong dream;
  15. finally learnt to swim;
  16. solo-traveled for the first time, don’t get what the fuss is all about, I enjoy travelling with loved ones more;
  17. learnt some pretty major “life-lessons”;
  18. started to actually enjoy good White Wines – and even have a favorite one;
  19. started painting more, and I realized I love it – maybe this will turn into something more substantial someday, only time will tell;
  20. learnt to crochet – and now making a scarf for myself;
  21. dealt with chronic back pain, and realized the biggest thing needed for recovery is TLC;
  22. learnt that I can perform miracles when I am kinder to myself, and forgave myself for all the times I wasn’t; and
  23. finally fell in love with myself – and started my life long romance..

I’m sure there are many more of my favorite highlights of the last decade and numerous “full-circle” moments, but for now this is a pretty good list!

I am looking forward to the next month to cherish these last few days of being a 20-something, I obviously intend to make the most of it.

Life sure is full of surprises, ten years ago I would’ve never believed this would be my life, and despite all the challenging moments, I would never change anything. I get to wake up as me, and that is pretty spectacular.

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Until next time, embrace your life. This day will never happen again, make the most of it.

Love more.

xo

31 Oct – Time to Celebrate

As one more month rolls by, I can’t help but feel a little sad that in 2 months, 2016 will be over. The concept of time is only becoming more and more prominent and every time I spend time with people I like, the first and last thing on my mind is that this is a moment that will be remembered. It helps me be more present in the “here and now”.

2016 has been a mixed bag so far, with a lot of moments that have forced me to face reality, and I’m sure it’s not just with me. But then so was 2015, for me, by the end of October in 2015, I remember thinking I’m done with 2015!, and 2016 is going to be something amazing. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like I have it backwards. Life shouldn’t be about waiting for an event in the near/distant future where everything will magically be perfect, where stars align and life is suddenly picture perfect. The ONLY life we’re sure of, is happening right now. With all the mess, the complications and everything wonderful as well.

So lets go ahead and celebrate it.

Cherish the here and now, love the people around you, call your friends who you’ve been missing and make plans (Actual plans where you meet and spend time), travel, do things that bring you joy and don’t for one second apologize for it.

If you love clicking selfies and sharing them, go and do it.

If you love reading a book, and lose yourself in the world of fantasy that only books can give you, go and do it.

Go and travel as much as you can…

You get the point…

I’ve been trying to live this way, more so than before, and people around me have started to notice it. In the last week, I’ve been told, not once, but twice, that I look so happy! And you know what, I am. It has to be my most favorite compliment yet.

So here’s the only thing I am trying to say in this post, Celebrate NOW. Whether you’re celebrating Diwali, Halloween, a good hair day, or maybe just the fact that you’re having a great day in general. Celebrate now, and make more memories that you can carry with you.

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Until next time, Happy Day.

xo

On time…

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Pic Source: Google Images

The most common thing that features in my everyday life is my schedule, and being a lawyer, tracking how I spend time is one of the first things I was taught. What does TIME really mean, I see clocks everywhere, on my computer, my phone, on the wall in front of me, and even on my wrist.. At any point, I always have a way to know the time or day or year it is..

Yes I know that our time here is finite, and yes, I also know that there is no way to turn back time. yet, there are things in my everyday life that I find myself procrastinating.. I’m not talking about big, earth shattering decisions that generally tend to be given a later spot in the list of priorities (lets face it, it can be daunting), it is even in the little things, for example, if I have to review 2 contracts for the day, and I have scheduled one for each half of the day, I usually start by making a detailed list of ALL the things that have to get done in each half of the day.. And mentally earmark time slots for each of these activities. And right from the start, I have an idea of how my day will go. So much so, that at a recent interview, I claimed that time management was one of my biggest strengths.

Because of this system, on most days, I can be the most efficient person ever, but on other days, I find myself pushing the task to the next time slot just because I’m missed the mark of starting that activity by about 10 minutes… I feel like this throws me off balance, and messes with the things that I would like to accomplish for the day. If there is one thing I hate, it is to miss deadlines.

Having said that, I often wonder how this doesn’t bother me as much as it should for the big (read: world shattering) things in my life. I mean obviously I know that there are certain things I would like to accomplish during my time here. Like start my own business and successfully run it (for a long time), take up teaching, write more, travel more, etc… And yet, I haven’t really made a plan on getting these things done, and for a list maker such as myself, that is surprising!

As days turn into weeks turn into months turn into years turn into decades, in certain aspects I feel stuck, like I’m way behind schedule. And I need to stop procrastinating and at least make a plan for myself.

Which reminds me of one of the most obscure conversations I’ve had with one of my former clients which also turned out to be one of the most insightful, was about the secret to success, and he (an accomplished businessman) said that the secret to success is the ability to make quick decisions, because life will always snowball choices at you before even you’re ready, and sometimes the choices come your way only once.

So having the ability to just go with it, and not procrastinate, is one of THE BIGGEST revelations yet.

If the right time isn’t now, then when? If I keep preparing for something and never actually do it, being ready or feeling “ready”for something may never actually happen, unless I take the damn leap and do everything that I seem to keep putting off..

Life will keep passing us by, and in that lies its beauty. Its like a moment that has passed by will never return, and no amount of money in the world can buy back the moments that have turned into memories.

Now is literally all we can be certain of… So here’s my Note to Self: If its worth doing, just do it already.

Until next time..

Tick Tock.

xo

Time….

One of my biggest fears is that time is running out. Like I don’t have enough time left, whether it is to do things I like, spend time with my friends,family, SOs, do something new, gain new experiences, travel and see new places or all of the above. Sometimes I feel like this is it.. Tomorrow may or may not come. And all this coming from a girl who has always has a five year plan during my teens.

Now, there’s Only hope for a better tomorrow, that whatever it brings will be beautiful and meaningful and that it too will lead to making me who I am going to be..

The thing I am most certain of is “now”, this moment where I’m sitting and furiously typing away on my computer, trying to put my feelings into words. Before I go, here’s my new favorite poem by Lang Leav.. Hope you like it too..

And before it takes away some more, maybe we can all just go out there and do whatever makes our hearts sing!!

Until next time,

Happy Sunday… ❤

xo

Author: Lang Leav Source: Facebook

Author: Lang Leav
Source: Facebook

For the Love of Love !!

One of the most tragic thing ever is when a person becomes so busy making a living that he forgets to make a life… I’m beginning to notice this very saddening trend way too often among my friends, I guess that’s just the norm in any group of 20-somethings, Isn’t it so true that each of us is more competitive and ambitious than the next. We all want better lives, better jobs, bigger promotions, bigger pay, bigger cars, better toys, bigger houses, to live in big cities and race against the clock, live faster, and why not !!!!.. For the most part, we are all so caught up in this race that we forget that there’s something more important we are missing out on and how..

Having never been a “workaholic” (not even remotely so), I’ve always been clear that a job is just that… A job… Its not (and will never be) my whole life. Its part of life, a pretty big part, perhaps, but never my whole life. Work is like Seasoning, it makes the food taste yummy, but try eating just the seasoning…. Can’t do it, can you ?? Work is great and very required for a “yummier” life (so to speak), I feel a bigger sense of Loyalty to people, and isn’t that how it should be. But I’m increasingly finding myself feeling caught up by it.. 

Neither am I one of those “pseudo philosophical” people who attribute all the evils in the world to Money. Someone once told me (and quite accurately so) that the only people who claim that money doesn’t buy happiness are the ones who don’t have any.. Don’t let anyone kid you, Money is very important, it makes life comfortable, it gives you choices that you won’t have if you don’t have money. I’m possibly (definitely) one of the most materialistic people there is.. But money in itself is never enough

In our final moments, we don’t wonder about our bank accounts or how our bosses perceive us, or whether the people in our lives are impressed by our swanky new toys… Having had two very close brushes with death in the recent past, near accidents that would’ve been fatal which were missed by a fraction of a second and by what I believe to be the big guy in the sky looking out for me, I can promise you, that those things (I am so busy chasing after) weren’t even on my mind.. I didn’t worry about or fear death either. Death, after all is an inevitability that makes life more meaningful (It isn’t intended to scare the living day-lights out of us…. It just is.. Reality).. THE only thought that consumed my mind was, did I love enough… Do the people I love know that I love them. Because, in the end, the only thing that matters is love.

It’s amusing (now) to remember that an old friend of mine was always very put off by how morbid I can be sometimes. And I don’t hold grudges about that either.. After all, I’m too busy being in love with the people I love to waste any time holding grudges or being angry about things I can’t change..

Sometimes I blame Technology for making life too convenient, we seem to think its okay not to make an effort anymore. I’m connected to my closest friends on every social media platform there is, except in reality (for the most part, at least…. I tend to be slightly dramatic sometimes 😉 okay okay !!! Very dramatic, always…)..

I remember the time when I knew all my friends telephone numbers without even having to look at a phone-book and I’d pick up the phone, simply because it rang, not knowing who it could be, screening calls was unheard of. Back then, socializing meant meeting over a cup of coffee (Hahaha, I’m not as OLD as I sound), Now, my friends and I see each other on the virtual playground, notifications are the way to know that the conversation is still on, Yes, its convenient, yes, it saves a LOT of time and efforts, Yes, it is the easy way out.. And why else wouldn’t it be the most preferred thing in the world, since we are all always so busy anyway…

I was chatting with my best friend this morning, and we realized that its been rather long since we met, every time we make plans, work or something else comes in the way… Another friend of mine who I haven’t met in a while because he’s too busy building his business. Even my own brother, who lives in a five minute driving distance from me, I don’t meet as often as I would’ve liked.. And many many more with their own priorities….

To be honest, I’m  most grateful for people like these, because I know that no time or distance can diminish my love for them, I can’t imagine being compulsive and keeping score when it comes to meeting people, I get uncomfortable when I feel like I am being compelled to meet or talk to someone… Which is why I seldom text my friends first, I can’t bare the thought that anyone would feel compelled to reply JUST because (Do unto others…). You know I’m around when you need me.. (Now you know why I HATE texting first)…

To my busy-bee friends, all I have to say is, I’m thrilled for you, for your successes, for the price you pay for all your accomplishments, your work ethic is admirable, and no one deserves it more than you.. And if there’s ONLY one thing I wish for you to know is that I miss you, and Love you even more…

For the love of love, its time for me to realize that while I’m racing and running and chasing after things, it is TIME that’s racing ahead of us all… And it’s got a HUGE head-start too.. Before the inevitable, do something you love, be happy, watch a movie, sing your favorite song, kiss your kids (if you’re lucky enough to have them), be obnoxious with your best friends, crack silly jokes, even if you’re the only one who finds it funny (story of my life: feeling so breathless because of all the laughing that no one else even understands the joke *shrugging my shoulders*), cry a little, just slow down enough to allow yourself to feel. To love. To live… Since my weekend has JUST begun, I intend to do just that… Join me, won’t you ?

Until next time, Happy Weekend.. 🙂

xo

Most Valuable Life Lesson

20140220-193758.jpgSometimes the most insignificant things consume the most time and energy, its only when we stop to take stock that we realize how much time we have wasted on things that don’t matter at all..

Just today, a friend of mine evidently took offence to some picture I had shared on a popular social networking site earlier this week which resulted in him writing a long blog post on how the meme represents the growing insensitivity (he managed to add sadism, cruelty, bullying among other things. into the mix) among people..

I have learnt one lesson repeatedly over the years and that is, you cant please everyone, so don’t even bother trying. Always stay true to yourself, be happy with the person you are shaping up to be with each choice you make. Life is meant to be lived fearlessly, un-apologetically and gracefully. Be careful what you invest yourself in, for the price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.. (somebody rather wise said that, I can’t remember who)…

Life stops being fun if all your time is consumed in bickering, whining and always proving a point. in retrospect, it just looks like a life wasted… I refuse to let every joke I hear to be turned into a big “cause” ! If something is funny, I will laugh and (tell the joke while laughing the whole time and when no one else finds it nearly as hilarious as I do) then move on.. 🙂

Life is too short to be serious ALL the time, Lighten up, why don’t you !! When you do, you’ll soon realize that life is full of fun little surprises that will get you laughing,  you might even fall off your high horse, I kid you not !! 😉

I definitely count this as my favorite life lessons…

Time is linear and that’s the beauty of life !!

-Me

Until next time,

Make NOW count…

xo